There are too many people in this world who will tell you what you should or should not be. Don't be this, don't do that, don't say those things or use that language. You must act a certain way...behave yourself! Why can't you be more like __________?!?
Parents, family, schools, churches, workplaces, spouses, government, even complete strangers off the street all have an opinion on who you should be and how you should act...even thinking they should have a say in how you choose to think. Everyone wants to control you.
I call bullshit.
As I've gotten older and gained a little more experience with life, I've seen the toll that it takes on a person's soul to act in a way that attempts to please others at the cost of oneself. No true happiness or understanding can occur when you relinquish your thoughts, feelings or ideas for the sake of another, be they person, organization or whatever.
If I could go back and teach myself one lesson in life it would be this: Just be who you are and give no thought to what anyone else thinks about it.
Only now in my thirties have I finally begun to truly manage this task. We as humans are so conditioned to behave a certain way, from such a young age, that even now so many of us are scared to be ourselves. Intimidated to speak our own minds. Frightened to show our true feelings or passions, in case we may be embarrassed or rejected.
This is pointless and ridiculous. Of course, we all have to play the game sometimes...I get up in the morning, don my uniform and become Mr. Train Driver...it's not who I really am. We all have to follow society's rules to some extent or be threatened with joblessness, homelessness, even the fires of Hell! We humans love our foolish games...
Sadly, this means that none of us are truly free, excepting perhaps the very rich and the very poor. It's a shame and I believe an obstacle to human evolution as a civilization. However, we can at least claim a sort of part-time freedom. When we don't absolutely have to conform, why should we? As long as we live up to our responsibilities and refrain from hurting each other, why not be ourselves? unashamed, uncowed and unapologetic! You are the author of your own being. Let none take that away. Be exactly who you want to be whenever possible. I assure you, although you may initially alienate certain people, you will eventually find like-minded company. None of us are as alone as we sometimes feel. Just figure out who you are, be that person, and be free. At least during evenings and weekends...



